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An ideal couple

Rachel and her husband Dylan had always seemed an ideal couple to me and to our friends. They clearly enjoyed…

An ideal couple

Rachel and her husband Dylan had always seemed an ideal couple to me and to our friends.
They clearly enjoyed each other’s company and enthusiastically shared the responsibility of their household and care of their only child, Peter. When Dylan suddenly died of cardiac failure at 47, we all considered it a great tragedy.

So it was a surprise to me when, six months later, Rachel approached me with a request to secure the services of my lawyer friend, saying she needed his help in arranging an adoption. She wanted to adopt an orphan girl who had grown up with an out-of-state family and she wanted it done quickly.
When I sought to understand the circumstances, especially the need for urgency, Rachel told me an unexpected story.

Apparently she had had a last-minute bedside conversation with Dylan before he died. He told her that he had, unknown to Rachel, had an affair with her best friend, who had quietly gone out of town and given birth to a girl. The girl had then been growing up with the friend’s sister’s children in rural Pennsylvania.
Dylan had a strong sense of guilt for not having looked after the daughter well, let alone acknowledge her, and confessing his lapse to Rachel, begged her to do something about the girl.

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I told Rachel that it was good of her to want to give the girl a loving home and asked if she was quite clear in her mind about adopting Dylan’s love child with her best friend. She paused and impressed me with her firm response. Yes, she was certain that she wanted to adopt Dylan’s child and she felt she could lovingly bring her up and give her every opportunity.

“You see,” she added, “I listened to Dylan and promised him that I would take care of the child.”
Then she added, “But there wasn’t time enough to tell him what I really wanted to speak to him about. Well, Peter wasn’t Dylan’s son. He was the unexpected result of a fleeting relationship I had with his brother when Dylan was out of the country. I could not bring myself to divulge it to him earlier, and then there just wasn’t the time.”

The writer is a Washington-based international development advisor and had worked with the World Bank. He can be reached at mnandy@gmail.com

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