'Teens' is a decisive period of your child’s life. They will have to face several crucial stages while moving towards adolescence. Consciously or unconsciously they might feel they donrsquo;t need you but the reality is just the opposite. Pay attention to them.nbsp;
It is the time when they start forming their own opinion. Here your participation becomes key. They need to know the facts about themselves and the world around them. No one can do this better than you.
Spend at least 30 minutes of quality time with your child everyday with an open mind and positive approach. Be receptive and listen to them carefully. Respect their thoughts and decisions. They might be wrong sometimes or most of the times but these mistakes will make them learn better.
At this stage you may face a tough time as a parent. Be positive in your approach and you and your child will come out of it soon. They will make you feel proud one day.
As your children enters the teenage phase you will feel a disconnection with them. It is absolutely normal. They need space to grow and cannot become an adult without the sense of independence.
Many a times their behavior will surprise or scare you. You may feel hurt seeing them closer to their friends. This is an unavoidable stage. Try not to show your displeasure or discomfort. It is better not to chase them. Be familiar and friendly with their friends and build a good rapport. Never degrade your children’s friends because they are important to them but assure that they are in good company.
Feel free to talk to them about alcohol sex puberty and pornography. If you will not talk about it some other person will substitute you. At this age your children are more likely to be exposed to all things. It is always better to know what is going on in their lives even if you donrsquo;t approve them. Share your teenage experiences honestly with them to make them feel free to discuss with you. They should have the same feeling with you as if they are talking to a friend or a trusted person.
Donrsquo;t hesitate to discuss awkward stuff like drug addiction smoking etc. which are socially unacceptable. You might feel that your child is still small and is happy with food and electronic gadgets one never knows what all is going on in his mind.
These days 80 per cent of teenagers own smartphones with access to internet games cameras and social media. It is an add-on to the worries of parents. In some countries parents can track what their children are doing through ldquo;parent’s apprdquo;. These apps can show what kids are posting on social media their deleted texts and messages sent via what’s app and snap chat etc. If you are using such an app tell your children that they are being monitored by you. It will help maintain the bond of trust between you and them.
Remember no software can replace parents to keep children safe. You canrsquo;t raise your children in bubble but keeping a check on their mobiles and internet use is necessary to keep them safe online to some extent. Make them aware how to stay safe against the potential dangers of inappropriate content on internet cyber bulling and chatting with strangers. You can suggest your children’s school management to conduct workshops or introduce lessons lsquo;how to safeguard internet lsquo;access. These workshops can make them aware of fake social media profiles. Prepare your child for an eventual exposure to some adult things. Warn them to seek out wrong sites from time to time.
Children need your love support and guidance at this changing and challenging age of their lives in the same way they needed when they were kids. The only difference is the change in your role. Now your relationship demands more friendliness than nurturing. Always be a source of emotional support. They need you.